Okay, This Has got to Stop

[Jane]

As everyone knows, I lost my oldest and dearest friend Julie a few weeks ago to cancer. But in the last two months, I have lost 4 people who were important to me in my life and now I am starting to get really weirded out.
First it was Joyce in Pensacola, then Julie here, and then Jean in Lakeland and yesterday morning my only living uncle Jimmy, dad's youngest brother, died. Jack has assured me he is fine and won't be going anywhere anytime soon but what are the odds for something like this.

This has really taken me yet for another loop not only because I lost people I loved but because everyone of their names started with a J. Jimmy will be buried in Mendenhall, Mississippi (my hometown) next to his wife Joyce who I lost a few years back due to an infection she got from the hospital when she had surgery and next to their infant daughter who died many years ago and with granny and pappy.

Dad is upset because this was his only brother left living but his health will not allow him to go home for the funeral. But I know his heart is there. The humidity has caused dad to have a hard time breathing lately but hopefully this cold spell will ease that.

But how many of you have ever had this happen to you? That you lost so many people in such a short period of time and all their names started with the same letter???

[Boneman]

Jerry Binner, run! Run away from Jane!

[carolwicks]

Jane...

now don't sit around waiting for all your J friends to die. it was strictly coincidence.
you need to stop thinking of death and get on with life... its too short to waste. you and your loved ones will meet again...but for now just think of Alex, your other kids and family and US! thats more than enough to handle.
and don't worry... as soon as i see Boney Marony he's gettin a slap! lol... cheer up my friend...
much love
carol aka OZZIE thank goodness... a C and an O.....
p.s.
there is an old saying... Laugh and the whole world laughs with you... cry and you cry alone. it isnt that people dont care Jane... but if we all sit around and type mushy sad notes to you then we won't be helping you heal.
SO HEY KARNACIANS..... Let's give Jane a HUGE tickle!
Jane... you better reply with a smile!!!!
JOZZIE lol

[Jane]

Thanks Carol, I am trying to smile. Just really freaked me out yesterday when I heard Jimmy had died. All the J's in the last two months kindof was scary for me. Honestly, I think anyone in my shoes right now would have been freaked out some. Joyce had been sick, Julie was sick, Jean was sick and Jimmy also had cancer but only recently found out. Thank goodness he was not in alot of pain but his one wish was to die at home and his daughter refused to let him go home. My cousin Pam is a cancer nurse and she lives in Charleston, S.C. and she would have gladly taken care of Jimmy so he could go home but greed stepped in and Sandy, his daughter, saw dollar signs and not love. Supposedly my uncle was the richest man in Southern Mississippi and his daughter saw money from his dying.

Isn't it strange how greed does come out in families when someone dies. Julie had that in her family when her mom died. Everyone wanted it all, no one wanted to share. And when my grandmother died, dad's mom, his two brothers came in and took everything so dad would not get anything although he never asked for anything.

But I find it strange in life that we seem to be nicer to people when we think they are going to die and leave us money. Instead you need to be nice now when it counts and not when they are almost gone. I know you must agree on that one. I have seen it in my own family and others. I much rather mom and dad spend every last nickel they have on themselves than to worry about leaving money to my brother and me and he feels the same way. I am just so blessed to still have them and I thank God daily for that.

I help my parents everyday because they need me. I pump mom's gas for her because she can't. I unpack dad's books because he can't. I put up their Christmas tree so they have one and mom loves the lights and Christmas. I would and do anything and everything they need me to do because I love them and I appreciate them.

I will be fine Carol, just give me alittle time. And I do still smile but alittle freaked out right now.